Do you have that one friend who you haven’t talked to in a long time but things are the same no matter what? For me, that friend is Olivia. We live 1,500 miles apart and see each other about once a year. In order to keep up with each other, we talk on the phone every now and then. The other night I called her just to chat and right before we said our goodbyes, we got to talking about social media. We talked about how it has influenced our lives, negatively at times, and why we feel that sometimes we can only post the good stuff. So, I sought out to answer this question: why do we only post the good stuff?
WE WANT TO LOOK LIKE WE ALWAYS HAVE IT TOGETHER
First of all, I am a hot mess. Most days my makeup doesn’t get done, I don’t eat as well as I should, and I run out of patience with my students (and sometimes my husband… sorry honey.) The truth is, MOST of us don’t have it all together. If you do have it all together please comment and let us know how you do it! You know the celebrity with the perfect looking family that just went on a tropical vacation and took a perfect picture on their yacht? Yep, they probably don’t have it all together either.
Things are not always as they appear, especially on social media. For example, here is a photo of Garrett and I taken a few weekends ago on a ski trip. Our friend snapped this picture of us at a beautiful spot on the mountain. Maybe you looked at this photo and saw two experienced skiers. When I look at this photo I laugh because as soon as this picturesque moment was over I fell flat on my face. I didn’t fall skiing down a black diamond… I fell standing completely still.
All that to tell you, I am far from having it together. Most times when I post on social media it is not a true depiction of the moment. I am not saying to air all your dirty laundry for the world to see on Facebook. There is such thing as oversharing for sure and some things are meant to stay private. I just think that we could be so much more authentic and intentional in the way we use social media. You never know, sharing the struggles you are having could give someone struggling with the same thing the confidence to get help or support. This week, I challenge you not to fake your captions. If you are going to share, share the real you!
WE LONG FOR AFFIRMATION AND ACCEPTANCE
Social media was designed to help people connect. I have connected with people through social media and think when used right it can be a great thing. Social media can also be lonely. It is completely normal and human to long for affirmation and acceptance. One way that our culture seeks those things is through social media. There is this excitement when your post gets hundreds of likes or the cute boy you have been eyeing messages you. I have been there and have tried looking for acceptance in social media and honestly never found it.
True acceptance comes only from the Lord. If you try to find it in your followers on social media, your best friend, or even your spouse you will never find it. Our friends and significant others can be great supporters and can give us the temporary acceptance and affirmation we long for but God is the only one who loves us literally unconditionally. My husband, as a model of God’s love, loves me unconditionally in the best way he knows how. Garrett, like all of us, is an imperfect being meaning that he can never love me truly perfectly. The perfect God who created you not only accepts you but loves you, and there is not one thing you can do to change that.
Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.” No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:35-39
This week be real on social media and seek acceptance in Christ! It will change not only your social perspective but it will change you! Also, remember this week and always that you are SO loved and so cherished!
Do you post to get more likes? Do you post to let others know what is going on with your life? I want to know, why do you use social media and what is the purpose of your posts? Think about it and let me know below!