Will you accept this rose?
Season 21 of the Bachelor premiered a couple days ago. Much like a large percentage of the women in America, I tuned in with anticipation. Although I was hoping Luke Pell would be the bachelor this season, that was not enough to keep me from watching. There is something about one man trying to date 30 women and the drama included that makes it hard to look away.
My husband got suckered into watching this week’s first episode with me. In the first episode of the season, the bachelor stands outside of an immaculate mansion. He waits for the women to arrive in a huge stretch limo. When the limo pulls up, one by one they step out in gorgeous floor length dresses that probably cost one month of rent in Denver. Some of the women wear funny costumes or have props and puns ready to make their first impression.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
As Garrett and I watched each woman meet the bachelor I quickly found myself in a battle of comparison. I was comparing the woman to each other and even comparing them to myself. To make things worse, I also realized I was unkindly criticizing their appearances. Some of them do silly things to get his attention, like wearing a shark suit, and they make it easy to poke fun. Despite the comical things that happen, it is no excuse to criticize.
When the episode ended, I was left feeling convicted. Normally I can’t wait to call my mom to gushingly exchange thoughts on the episode. However this time, I just felt guilty. Comparison is the thief of joy. I robbed myself of joy the moment I began comparing and criticizing. Who am I to judge someone based on their appearance or the way they act on a reality TV show? That is not the example I am called to set.
As a Christian, there is a biblical command to love others. Simply loving just Christians or just people in my circle of friends and family is not what it means to love others. To love others is to love all, to love people completely unlike me and even my own enemies. Followers of Jesus are called to love everyone.
I am not perfect and fall short every day but I want to always be an example and a light, loving everyone. What a beautiful world it would be if we the stopped comparing, judging, and criticizing and loved, encouraged, and uplifted them instead.
How have you been a light to others recently? Do you also struggle with comparison? I would love to chat with you so please leave a comment below.