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Will you accept this rose?

Season 21 of the Bachelor premiered a couple days ago. Much like a large percentage of the women in America, I tuned in with anticipation. Although I was hoping Luke Pell would be the bachelor this season, that was not enough to keep me from watching. There is something about one man trying to date 30 women and the drama included that makes it hard to look away.

My husband got suckered into watching this week’s first episode with me. In the first episode of the season, the bachelor stands outside of an immaculate mansion. He waits for the women to arrive in a huge stretch limo. When the limo pulls up, one by one they step out in gorgeous floor length dresses that probably cost one month of rent in Denver. Some of the women wear funny costumes or have props and puns ready to make their first impression.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

As Garrett and I watched each woman meet the bachelor I quickly found myself in a battle of comparison. I was comparing the woman to each other and even comparing them to myself. To make things worse, I also realized I was unkindly criticizing their appearances. Some of them do silly things to get his attention, like wearing a shark suit, and they make it easy to poke fun. Despite the comical things that happen, it is no excuse to criticize.

When the episode ended, I was left feeling convicted. Normally I can’t wait to call my mom to gushingly exchange thoughts on the episode. However this time, I just felt guilty. Comparison is the thief of joy. I robbed myself of joy the moment I began comparing and criticizing. Who am I to judge someone based on their appearance or the way they act on a reality TV show? That is not the example I am called to set.

Leading by example starts with words and follows by actions.

As a Christian, there is a biblical command to love others. Simply loving just Christians or just people in my circle of friends and family is not what it means to love others. To love others is to love all, to love people completely unlike me and even my own enemies. Followers of Jesus are called to love everyone.

I am not perfect and fall short every day but I want to always be an example and a light, loving everyone. What a beautiful world it would be if we the stopped comparing, judging, and criticizing and loved, encouraged, and uplifted them instead.


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How have you been a light to others recently? Do you also struggle with comparison?  I would love to chat with you so please leave a comment below.


  1. If you are convicted you have to follow that feeling. I myself have been trying to live a better life. I began to wonder if that’s a show I should be watching. (jury is still out on that one)
    The one thing I did find this season is the women doing things that were overly sexual for no reason. If I had a daughter living at home with me no way would I let her watch it. So I wonder if I wouldn’t let her watch it then should I something I have to figure out. Oh how I miss the almost 24 hours of Hallmark Christmas movies.

    1. Brenda,
      Thanks for your comment! I agree that this season has been oversexualized. It is interesting to see how on Ben’s season the girls acted much more modest, I think mostly due to his character!

  2. You seem like such a darling Sister in Christ! It does our soul good when we can admit our mistakes aka take ownership of our mistakes… My prayers are w/u 🙂 … God so loves His Children Choosen & Graphed In. & He surely loves when we yearn in our souls to do better & listen to the quicken of the Holy Spirit Guiding us to a more righteous living 🙂 Awww sorry for going on so! Yet your story above w/such Heartfelt trueth is so precious! I’m sitting here as I text this message Praising Yahweh in my soul! You darling Sister 🙂 God Guides Leads & Walks Beside those who follow after Him 🙂 🙂 🙂

    1. Karen,
      You are so sweet, thanks for your encouragement! Seeking righteousness is so crucial to spiritual growth, it does not come easy though! Thanks for your words, they have made my day!

  3. The struggle is real for sure…. but I have come to a place in my life where I am happy with myself and that has made such a difference on outlook, health, and stress! -xo, Wendie

  4. I try to watch for entertainment purposes only, but the expression about comparison bring the thief of joy is incredibly accurate and fitting for many things in life <3

    Thanks for sharing!!

  5. I have always looked forward to every season of the bachelor. Our church does a 21 day fast every year. Not just food but things that maybe take more of my time than they should. So this year I gave up TV on top of some other things. When I realized I was going to miss the first few episodes of the bachelor. Well lets just say, I thought, well I will just catch up when the fast was over. But my perspective has changed. I need to give up things I think I love for those things I really love. I felt convicted…Satan had indeed been stealing precious joy from my life. So I no longer need to be so engrossed in TV that it takes away from those things that should be more present in my life.

    1. Cyndi, thank you so much for sharing your story! Choose joy always and don’t let anyone steal it, no matter how hard it might be! Thanks again fo sharing!

  6. It makes me sad that so many Christian men and women are sucked into shows like this. I think of Philippians 4:4-8 when watching shows, listening to music or reading books. The devil uses small ways to lure us and seduce us and it eventually permeates our thoughts and the movie in our minds. I pray we all search our hearts and minds as we consider what God wants us to do. God bless.

  7. Although the Bachelor isn’t something I would watch on my own, it’s definitely a show that I watch WITH my teenage daughters. The opportunities for discussion and gentle teaching are provided in endless variety while watching together. In this media saturated world they are exposed to so much and I want to be there as a guide rather than have them sneak around and watch while I’m not looking. Love your blog 🙂

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