Anxious or depressed? Maybe feeling alone? Here are some things I want you to know!

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Breathlessness, loss of rational thought, and overwhelming panic… any of these sound familiar? Well, they do to me. Those three things are the symptoms of my panic attacks. Anxiety and worry have been with me for as long as I can remember. If you were to ask my mom, she would probably tell you I was just an anxious child. That anxious child grew into an anxious teenager and then eventually into an even more anxious adult. My anxiety peaked after a couple big life changes in my late teens and very early twenties. Worry began to be constant instead of often.

I had my first panic attack shortly after my 20th birthday. Quickly I realized my anxiety was controlling me and I went to my doctor for help. She set me up on a medication that helped a little but what helped me the most to take control of my anxiety was knowing that it didn’t have to define me. My anxiety only defined me when I let it. So, one day, I stopped letting it define me. I realized I was more, I was made for more. Friend, you are more! God has designed you exactly how you are for a specific reason. He does nothing by accident and has such big plans for you!

You are so much more than your anxiety or depression. You are more than the mistakes you have made. You are more…


The American Psychology Association, APA, posted data on behavioral health in the United States. According to them, approximately 40 million American adults ages 18 and older, or about 18.1 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have an anxiety disorder.” 4o million… I’d say you are not alone. The APA also reported that nearly three-quarters of those with an anxiety disorder will have their first episode by age 21.5.

You are not alone, these statistics prove that. Even if you aren’t surrounded by other people with anxiety, seek out support and help from others. It is not easy to ask for help. As a naturally passive person, asking for help does not come easily for me. After realizing I could not handle the weight of my situation on my own, the burden of my anxiety grew lighter.

Garrett, my husband, has been my biggest support and has unconditionally loved me through this whole process. I am forever grateful for his patience and grace with me. My prayer for you is that you have someone who will do the same for you or that God will bring them into your life. I am so proud to say I am no longer taking my medicine anymore and I am okay. It has taken me years to get to this place but it is possible. Anxiety and I still have our moments. I think we always will but pray one day we won’t.

Don’t let your anxiety define you, you are more! Take control, find support, and know you are not alone.

The Message translation of the bible is not one I refer to often but I love how they have translated Philippians 4:6-7,

Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.

If you are struggling with anything at all, please don’t hesitate to comment below or send me a message through the contact page! I don’t have all the answers but I am always here for you!

Adrienne of Salt + Light


  1. I have had anxiety – different degrees of it at different times. I have learned coping mechanisms and developed my prayer life to get through them. Prayer is the answer! You are so right in that we are not alone.

  2. I joined the military at 18 and thought I ruled the world. Now in my 30s. I know suffer anxiety caused by my military service in my 20s. I’m sure i had or in my 20s.Anxiety is of those things that you can try to explain to someone but they will never understand unless they have experienced it themselves. Its not like the common cold or chicken pox. Those are visual and knownledgable. Mental health isn’t. Mental health has such a stigma behind it. But you are in your 20s. I promise life gets better and the more we learn about ourselves the better to treat anxiety. Good luck.

      1. I try to keep my shoulders relaxed. I’ve been told – which actually helped – and try to remind myself that It doesn’t have to be perfect. Whatever I’m trying to do. Lots of distraction with hobbies, writing, reading, cat snuggles.

  3. I was diagnosed with panic disorder two years ago. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever experienced. I took medication and it has been as good as gone for the last two years. But now it seems to be coming back. I’ll just go work on it and will not let it own me. Thank you for this article!

  4. Thanks for this post, Adrienne! I have an anxiety disorder, and it used to rule my life. Even going to the grocery store felt like too difficult a task sometimes. Through vulnerability with myself and my loved ones, plus counseling, I have learned to recognize my anxiety and try to figure out where it’s coming from. It’s still difficult some days, and it’s good to know that I’m not alone!

  5. I love this post for all of your strong advice and support. Especially about knowing you’re not alone. I think that is one big piece of the anxiety and feeling the love from others to get you through it.

  6. This is such a good post, it’s important for everyone who’s suffering from anxiety or any other mental health disorder to know that they are not alone (even tho it tends to feel like that!) x

  7. I suffer from anxiety, and it’s awful. I hate the feeling that I get right before panic sets in. I’ll never forget the worst one yet. It was a few years ago, I was on the way to meet the principal at a new school that I wanted to work at. A friend of mine told me to go meet her. The whole way there I was in panic mode. All I could do was pray, and tell myself how silly it was, that I was just going to meet another person. Not the president! Although the only thing that got my through that day, and many days is prayer.

    1. Prayer has been so crucial in working through my anxiety as well. Thank you SO much for sharing your story, Joanna. What are some ways that you cope with your anxiety?

    1. Belle, thank you so much!!! I am so blessed by him every day and am truly grateful for his grace and patience with me! 🙂

  8. I’m so glad that you and others are so outspoken about your anxiety. Reading about other’s experience has helped me to realize that I have struggled with anxiety for years without knowing that’s what it was. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Tabitha, thank you for sharing. I am glad you were able to figure it out! I pray peace over your anxiety!!!!

  9. Anxiety is definitely one of those silent things until it isn’t. It is amazing to know that there are so many others that have it.

    1. I struggle with panic attacks and depression. I refuse to up the dose on my medication and hope and pray i can be off of it soon for good! I am even easily startled with loud sudden noises. I don’t know what caused me to be this way but it’s such an uncomfortable feeling. I have a good husband for support as well but sometimes I feel like a burden. I hide it from everyone else around me because I would rather ignore it

      1. Marina, like you, I can quickly become startled and scared of the tiniest things. However, I am learning that is just how and who God made me. My family is all mostly understanding but it is not always easy! Being honest about it will you help you to have the support you need!

  10. I’ve only had a couple of anxiety attacks in my life but they scared the bejesus outta me! Heart literally felt like it was gonna pound out of my chest. Yoga and meditation saved me. Whenever I get that familiar feeling I stop, sit, and put my meditation app on.

  11. It is amazing how many people suffer from anxiety. I definitely think that getting help when you need it is important. I agree about prayer as well – so helpful!

  12. I should of read this in my twenties (I am not that far removed). I used to have severe panic attacks and it would get triggered due to stress. I learned positive thoughts and meditation helps a lot with anxiety!

  13. I have anxiety but not too many major attacks, they always freak me out because I’m not used to them. I find that not having a stressful/filled schedule makes a huge difference!

    1. Lydia, I totally agree. When I am most stressed and busy is when it is most likely to happen. Thank you for sharing! 🙂

    1. Awareness is SO important. Mental health is very real and you are right, most people who haven’t experienced it just truly do not understand. Thanks for sharing Tara!

  14. I have had a couple of panic attacks in my lifetime. It is not a fun experience, let me tell you. I feel for you, having to deal with them more often than I do. Glad to see that there is help available.

    1. Dawn, thank you for sharing. It is definitely not an enjoyable experience but I am so glad that God has used this to reach others with anxiety! 🙂

  15. This is a very awesome post. I do suffer from anxiety and I can tell you it is not no picnic. I think this is great for everyone to be aware of! It can happen to anybody at any time.

  16. I’ve had anxiety since middle school and I feel like that was kinda a benefit compared to those who get it later since I grew up learning to deal with the panic and recognizing the signs easier. I know people recently diagnosed and how hard they are struggling and I’m sure I did too but I worked through it and now can keep things quite stable

    1. Jessica, I am so glad you were able to overcome and work through it! Thanks for sharing your story! 🙂

  17. I had my first panic attack at age 8 and it wasn’t until age 18 that I even realized my constant worrying and irrational thoughts were from an anxiety/panic disorder. It’s still an everyday battle for me to keep those excessive negative thoughts to a minimum, but prayer and deep breathing has helped me tremendously.

  18. Anxiety and depression are something I struggle with daily, but this post is beautiful! I hate when I feel alone but I know there are people overcoming the same struggles I am!

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